by Tom Stuckey
When I candidated for the ministry in the 1960s my wife and I both understood that we were embracing a life of self-sacrifice. This idea of sacrifice was re-enforced during my three years of residential training at Richmond College, founded in 1842 to train missionaries. Each day we students passed beneath the Memorial Boards of those pioneer students who had responded to the missionary call. It was salutary to see how many of those who went out and died ‘in the field’ after serving for less than two years. Dietrich Bonheoffer, who had stood beneath these boards before returning to Nazi Germany, wrote, ‘When Christ call a man he calls a man to die’ We students could not fail to absorb this idea of ‘making the sacrifice complete’. Our partners knew this too.
I recall also how in 1965 the President, Professor Gordon Rupp, spoke to the Ministerial Session of Conference on the subject of the ‘Pastoral Office’. He suggested that the survival of God’s people depended on the effectiveness of the Pastor who like the Good Shepherd ‘sacrifices himself for the sake of the sheep’.
This word ‘sacrifice’ does not sit easily today within a middle class culture of self-fulfilment yet its reality still challenges the contemporary family. For example; do you, as a responsible parent, put your career before your family? In times past the role of each parent and the children was clearly defined. Not so today where parents attempt to balance competing expectations. What however remains evident is that within a family someone, if not everyone, has to make some sacrifice if the family is not to be fragmented.
Within the ministerial family of former days, the husband’s vocational demands usually came first forcing the wife and children to make the greater sacrifice. Thankfully we live in a more enlightened age. Today’s ordained ministers are advised to work two sessions out of three each day, guard their days off and take their quarterly breaks; all ‘well-being’ matters designed to reduce stress – sensible yes but theologically questionable? Moreover, today ministers have to deal with issues which were not there thirty years ago and these have changed the very nature of how we spend our days. The shortage of ministers, the ever increasing statutory demands and the burden of responding to and producing data for our ravenous technological machines, is turning active pastoral ministers into desk-sitting managers. We are suffering from what Christina Maslach calls ‘structural stressing’.[1] I must therefore ask, ‘At what point does the concern for ministerial well-being undermine the vocational and theological call of Jesus ‘to deny self, take up the cross and follow? (Mk.8.34).
In June I wrote an article in the Methodist Recorder with the above title within the series of Elder Voices. Since then, I have continued to think further about this idea of ‘making the sacrifice complete’. I have been helped by John Barclay’sarticle Is Self-Sacrifice a Christian Ideal in which he approaches this issue in a different way. He rightly points out that self-sacrifice can lead to harmful self-negation. The ultimate end of sacrifice, he argues, is not simply about loss but also about gain. Self-sacrifice is about giving one’s self into a relationship of solidarity with others, such that ‘all can flourish together’. It is not a binary concept but a corporate one. ‘Give and it will be given to you’, is one of a series of texts in Luke 6 which sets the idea of loss in the context of gain. Barclay concludes, ‘Our self-other polarity makes it almost impossible for us to understand how a gain for others can be also, and legitimately, a gain for oneself… if we understand ourselves as made to flourish ultimately as we conjoin our identity with that of Christ, we have a vision that is richer and fuller than the heroization of self-sacrifice.’[2]
Both Christine and I look back over my sixty years as a Methodist Minister with gratitude. Yes, the Church has generated many stressful times for us and our children, yet these occasions of anguish and agony fade when compared to the abundant joy and sense of well-being that we have experience. God has blessed us! This, I suggest, is a by-product of attempting to ‘make the sacrifice complete’.
[1] Christina Maslach, BurnOut, ISHK. p.69.
[2] Methodist Sacramental Fellowship – August 2025.